I'm a 34 year old Utah girl who is fighting stage IV melanoma for a second time. Former caramel queen and coffee slinger. Finding out whats next, one day at a time.
Thursday, January 26, 2017
Lazy days
Wednesday, June 29, 2016
New Plan... For the 6th time
I was gearing myself up to sign on to this intense and invasive treatment and then we realized I am not eligible due to my high steroid regimen I'm on. I would have to be off of it completely before starting and that wont be for at least 6 weeks. And at that point we will look at it all again.
Sunday, June 26, 2016
Hotel Huntsman, 2 night stay
Monday, June 20, 2016
Father's day
I started the day out with a quick stop to the Wheeler Farm Farmers Market and had some breakfast. I then ran some errands and did some shopping. After that I went back to where I was dogsitting and played with the pup a bunch (sweet great dane) and then took an amazing and long nap.
After I woke up I got ready and headed to my parents house and we grilled steaks and had corn on the cob, beans and potato salad. All was super tasty and followed up with strawberry shortcake. I gave my dad some framed pictures of me and my sister and then one of my mom, sister and I. He loved them and was genuinely happy and enjoyed his day which made me enjoy it too!
It is insane to me the pain I've been having in my neck. My tumors are a fraction of the size they were at the worst and are causing almost as much pain. So so crazy. Hoping to begin to manage it better. appointment on Wednesday.
Saturday, June 11, 2016
Can't sleep...
It is 1:53 am and I can't sleep. Some of it is that I can't get comfortable with my dang neck nerves firing like crazy but most of it is thinking about random things. The main thing I keep thinking about is the Rally for Ruby in the morning. And just Ruby and her family in general. I just keep thinking how can she possibly have the same thing as me. How is it that she is so full of life yet inside her little body is a beast attacking. It just doesn't seem real, especially since she doesn't show any signs of being sick - even with treatment she hasn't had any side effects. She is truly a fighter and doesn't deserve the things she is forced to deal with. Me, I'm 33 and can understand what cards I've been dealt. I can understand, even though I'd rather not, the scary reality of what this diagnosis carries. I know the statistics. I don't want the statistics to apply to sweet innocent 3 year old Ruby. I don't want her to have to understand all of this. I want her to miraculously beat this f'r and grow up to be a sassy teenager that will give her sweet amazing parents a run for their money. I want so many things for this amazing girl. So so many things.
Back to the Rally. . . I know how much it meant to me to see my family, friends and community come together to support me time and time again and I just want that same feeling to go to the Thackeray family. I want tomorrow to be something that they remember forever as one of the many positive things to come out of an extremely negative situation. I want the memory of this day to pop in their head and bring tears of joy to their eyes like the thought of my birthday fundraiser party does. The thought of "is this real life?" Or "all of this for me/us?!." These are the memories that get me through rough patches and I just want this amazing family to have the same thing.
I know tomorrow will be incredible and full of love and support - as well as making a good amount of money. I've done my best to rally donations and do my small part to make it a better and hopefully more successful day. I know I'm not the only one rallying. There are close to 300 silent auction items - that speaks volumes.
I can't wait to basically have a mini high school reunion tomorrow and feel the love and support that will be in the air. I can't wait to hug Ali, just not to long of a hug cause we know what happens then. Tears. I'll take a short hug over no hug :)
Now to try and fall asleep. Hopefully writing this out will clear some space in my brain and allow me to get some sleep.
Good night #teamLex and #teamThack
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Thursday, June 9, 2016
Things are pretty good
I was so excited that I felt so good so soon after treatment because the Sunday after was two of my most favorite events - Gay Pride and the opening day of the Wheeler Farm Farmers Market. I rested everyday up until Sunday so I would have the energy to go to both. It was a full day! I had a great time though and was worth how tired I was at night. Since then I have been pretty active and even worked two days this week. Doesn't sound like much but it truly is. Hoping it continues.
One thing lately is that I am in a sort of mental funk. My mind just wonders to the dark side of things and then I have to reel it back in and to the moment. It is part of having cancer - your mind wanders and goes down the list of "what if," and it is terrible. I am working on getting out of the funk and not stay in it, it will just take time.
In the middle of all the fun my dad had back surgery. He had 4 discs repaired since they had herniated. His surgery went really well and he was discharged practically immediately. Hoping his recovery goes smoothly and no re-injury happens. No bending, twisting, lifting. Getting in and out of bed log-roll style. It's a lot. Backs are tricky... I know too well!
An update on little Ruby who is 3 and fighting stage 4 melanoma and on Nivolamab (one of the drugs I am on) - she had her scans this week. Her little body has 40 tumors and sadly they are growing, which means the treatment is not working and so they have to look at other options, which there is slim to none of. There are some clinical trials they can apply for but that is a process and may not happen in time. It truly makes my heart sink, and makes me think the worst for myself as well (I'm really trying not to go there) Her fundraiser is this weekend and I have been helping get silent auction items and was impressed that I got 30+ donations! I truly have amazing people around me and an amazing farmers market family. The rally will be amazing! If you want to donate you can go to facebook.com/rallyruby to donate to the rally or their gofundme - https://www.gofundme.com/RallyRuby - anything will help! I'm so excited to go support this sweet girl and her amazing family. Really hoping we both can beat this beast melanoma!
As always, thank you for all the love and kindness you've shown to me - especially those sweet people who have sent me letters! I was so amazed that almost half have been from people I don't know but just follow my journey. Truly incredible. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Friday, June 3, 2016
Treatment Day 2
I also had a formal ultrasound done of my gallbladder - named Gally fyi - and it was confirmed that I do have numerous stones. There is no infection or thickening so there isn't an immediate need to remove it. We (my oncologist team and I) have decided to not do anything with it until it spazzes out again - which hopefully isn't anytime soon. For now Gally is here to stay.
This week I attended a funeral for John Williams, the owner of the company I work for, Market Street. I worked for him for over 7 years and worked 7 of his legendary Christmas parties. He was one incredible, generous and fun man. The funeral was very positive and it was great to hear all of his accomplishments and to hear that he spoiled his family so so much. Pretty amazing to see. Makes you want to give all you've got to those you love.
I want to thank those that have sent and dropped off letters - you truly amaze me! I have received a good amount and it makes me feel so so loved! Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!
Now keep positive thoughts that I continue to feel good going forward towards the next treatment!
xoxoxo
Friday, May 27, 2016
Friday Update
I had a follow up appointment yesterday for a skin check and the clinical trials I was involved with early last year. I learned that one of the studies is going to compensate for each visit, approximately $45. I'll take it! All my skin checked out good, no new worry spots or things to biopsy which is always great. I also talked to both my oncologists about my
It is a holiday weekend and I have very little plans, but the plans I have are great with me because it will just be stuff to keep my mind busy before heading into treatment again mid week. When you know it will make you sick it is hard to get geared up to go in... mind games I tell ya. I am more prepared now and know what to expect so I wont let it sneak up on me like this last one. I have my Gatorade and Ensure stocked up as well as a cozy bed!
Thank you to all who have written letters, we're up to 9 now. So nice of you to take the time out of your day to send me a little note. I haven't read them all but I am excited to see who some are from. Like I said, I am going to reach for them when I am having a crappy day or just need a little extra something something from my army.
Good vibes for the weekend and treatment next week!
Sunday, May 22, 2016
Just another ER visit
I have been having a sharp pain in my upper abdomen that just kept getting more and more intense. After I started looking into why it would be hurting where it was, I realized it had to be my gallbladder. It got so bad that I decided to go in.
I had to go to the U of U ER since Huntsman doesn't have any options for evening and weekend urgent care. I was there forever... They did an ultrasound of my gallbladder and found multiple stones and one giant one. It had a freaking shadow on the ultrasound! Then the problem was to decided if it was infected or blocked. Luckily it wasn't either of them, but that also means that I couldn't have it removed while I was there cause it isn't deemed an "emergency." I was sent home (and finally was able to eat and drink a little something) and will talk with my oncologist and get a plan. I will definitely need it removed so I hope to have it sooner rather than later as the pain is pretty consistent and not comfortable in the slightest.
It has been a month that's all I have to say.
Friday, May 20, 2016
Shiz got real, real fast.
Everyday since I have gotten a bit better and a little stronger. I was able to run to the store - doesn't seem like a big deal but man it wiped me out! I stocked up on Gatorade, Ensure, Coca Cola and Sprite; all things you need when you're really sick and need fluids or nutrients. So much for the no soda thing I was working on... It just tastes to dang good when you don't feel good.
My sweet friends brought me a tasty dinner last night as well as some beautiful flowers. Their company was plenty, but the flowers and food didn't hurt either.
Monday, May 16, 2016
A request from me to you
3362 S 2300 E
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Alexis
Saturday, May 14, 2016
Fever city
Today I've had a bit more energy in the last half of the day so I'm hoping that I just continue to feel better as each day goes by. Being knocked down so quickly does a number on me mentally and definitely reminds me that I'm sick. It also doesn't help that I can feel and see my tumors growing. Yep, from being off meds for 11 days they have grown and in the last two days they have definitely grown and are tender. This could be all my TCells attacking the cancer cells like they are supposed to but we won't know until scans in July. Here's hoping!
Definitely going forward one day at a time.
Thursday, May 12, 2016
Port O Cath and Day One of New Treatment
Friday, May 6, 2016
The plan
Tuesday, May 3, 2016
The Call
Me: Hello?
Caller: Yes, is this Miss Alexis Waters?
Me: This is she.
Caller: (in the most monotone script reading southern accent) Hello, this is --- from Bristol-Myers Squibb patient assistance program. I am calling to inform you that we have approved your grant for the Yervoy/Opdivo combination and I will be sending the drug to your doctors office shortly.
Me: Wait, what? That is amazing! Wait, what drugs again? (because I was making sure she said both! I was only expecting one!)
Caller: (again, in the most monotone script voice, she read the script again) You've been approved for Yervoy/Opdivo combination.
Me: Oh my gosh!! That is incredible!! Thank you so so much! Amazing!
Caller: (sooo soo monotone script) You have a nice day.
Me: Thank you! You too!!
And that was that! I am pretty sure she has NO IDEA what kind of drugs she is handing out. Life saving, life changing drugs! She was ready to just get off the phone and on to the next call. Gotta love a scripted phone bank worker!
I have been granted the FREE yes FREE drug! Amazing! Earlier in the day my nurses called and we have my port scheduled for Tuesday and then my first treatment will be Thursday. Pretty amazing.
To put it into perspective - just the Yervoy (Ipilimumab) treatment alone is $400K+ that they charge the insurance. I literally was just gifted over a half a million dollars. Freaking incredible!
Thanks for all the positive energy you all put out there for me - it worked!

















